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Why mum's still the word

PUBLISHED: 11:14 20 April 2011 | UPDATED: 19:13 20 February 2013

Photograph by LUCY TAYLOR

Photograph by LUCY TAYLOR

It's got to be one of the busiest jobs around! We ask two Suffolk mums how the role of bringing up a family has changed over the years

Teacher Anne-Marie Cooney of Bromeswell, near Woodbridge, is a mother of three. Her children are Gus, 14, Freya, 12 and Elsa 10


In your experience (and perhaps compared to what your mother had to do), how has the role of a mother changed?
It is certainly less of a traditional role nowadays. Women are encouraged to make career choices first and therefore often have children later in life. They then have the opportunity to continue working whilst raising a family.


Is being a mum tougher or easier in the modern age?
Yes I think it is tougher because there is far more pressure on women to be great mothers ensuring that their children get the best opportunities available whilst also holding down careers and having a household to run. I know lots of women who can feel that there is just not enough time to do both roles to the high standards they set themselves.


Is Mothers Day still relevant?
Yes we all need to be appreciated! Mothers Day is a family day. It is often only when you become a parent yourself that you truly understand some of the sacrifices your own parents made.


Do you know how you will spend Mothers Day this year?
Breakfast in bed! We will all be going to Elsas drama show in the morning and my parents will come for supper cooked by my children. No doubt there will be the normal Sunday evening panic as we try to find all school uniform, bags, kit and instruments!


How would you like to spend it?
Well theres a great question how about somewhere exotic with a cocktail and a good book!


Whats the best thing about being a mum?
In half term we talked about going to see a film rated 12a. I was not sure if my youngest was allowed to go and my son pointed out that it would contain some swearing. Elsas response? Actually, I know some swear words and it would be a great opportunity for me to learn some more! Moments like this are priceless!




Hazel Gadsden is the proprietor of Christmas Hall, Bildeston a restored Victorian country house and garden available for weekend house parties, intimate weddings and corporate events. Louise Elms (36) is Hazels daughter-in-law and a branding consultant who lives in Essex



Hazel:


In your experience (and perhaps compared to what your mother had to do) how has the role of a mother changed?
I believe it is more demanding being a mother in the present day because of the financial worries that they have to contend with in this current economic climate.


Is being a mum tougher or easier in the modern age?
Much tougher now. Mothers of today have to rely more on their family than they used to in order to bring up their children. Parents nowadays also face the worries of bringing up a child in more turbulent and violent times, so mothers are constantly worried about the safety of their children.


Is Mothers Day still relevant?
Probably more relevant because children nowadays often need their parents help, so it is nice for the roles to be reversed and for them to spoil us on this particular day!


Do you know how you will spend Mothers Day this year?
Not yet, but it usually involves a packed Christmas Hall full of family members, including all our children and grandchildren!


How would you like to spend it?
Hopefully with all my family around me at home, followed by a stroll across the village square for a meal at The Bildeston Crown.


Whats the best thing about being a mum?
I just love my family and I feel so happy seeing them grow up and then having children themselves. Now they have their own families they appreciate my company and my role so much more!



Louise:


In your experience (and perhaps compared to what your mother had to do) how has the role of a mother changed?
I think today mothers have much greater demands upon their time. We have the technology to make our lives easier, but we stretch ourselves further. We try to combine the role of being a mother with juggling a career. We strive to achieve excellence in each area.


Is being a mum tougher or easier in the modern age?
Tougher, I think were harder on ourselves and we compare ourselves to others more than previous generations. We compare ourselves with Victoria Beckham rather than our neighbours!


Is Mothers Day still relevant?
Yes definitely, its a welcome treat for mums!


Do you know how you will spend Mothers Day this year?
Hopefully a family day, a delicious meal and maybe a hand-made card from my two-year -old.


How would you like to spend it?
The above sounds perfect to me!


Whats the best thing about being a mum?
The delight and love you receive every single day.

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